Mother's personality?

We have serious issues mine is 2nd marriage and here’s is 3rd, she married her brother in law to migrate to USA, as husband I added her name to every bank accounts and my bank locker has her and my brother’s name, I did not added b’case as wife I want her to feel like family rather then separate person. Her sister handled all the money form the sale of my two houses and for 5 yrs I never ever asked the expenses she did from my money and she never ever told me either. Once when I called india my wife was not home and her sister in law told me many negatives about my wife’s family one was every one knows this people when money is involved and I had some doubts so after 5 yrs. I told my wife to get the expenses and then the problem started, she visited 2X india and about 3X to her sister place here in USA within 6 yrs we are married to gather and SHE IS STILL UNSATISFIED telling me I am selfish and too miserable this is from lady who besies her total 6 trips and her mother’s two tickets. she does not have money to pay for our daughter’s Pre-K but has money to visit her brother in law for it’s 4 yrs she visited them but fails to understand they stayed together about 2 yrs back for 3 months or so and said she is earning too but right after she returned after visiting her BIL she started asking me $$ for she does not have and this on top when she says her two sister and brother paid for her and my two kids visit to their place here in USA. FORGET ABOUT WIFE WHAT TYPE OF MOTHER WOULD YOU DESCRIBE HER AS ? thanks a lot in advance